One priority, one happiness

It often occurs that you try you sincere best to make one person, who you most value in you life, very happy. But that has it consequence and that too, not a very good one either. Like a firm has many posts which go in the order of decreasing importance and value, similarly, I believe, one's heart also has such posts. Obviously, to you, the person occupying that first post in your heart will have the most importance to you.

However, like a firm cannot function without all the posts working together, an individual also cannot function without all the parts of his/her heart working together, that is, all the people in their lives. What happens to the firm if there is conflict between two very important people? It goes into a huge deficit condition and then all the other people working in the firm are also affected. 

Something similar has happened to me today. Or at least, it has been happening since a long time but I realized it today. An individual has one most important person in his/her life. That is a fact and I agree to it. But that does not mean that the individual gets to ignore all the other parts or people who make up his/her life. It's wrong and eventually if that goes on, the person will be alone. 

It's not wrong to give much importance to one particular person but what's wrong is to ignore the rest. The firm is not just made up of one person. It's made up of many people from the CEO to even the cleaner. It's not possible for the firm to function without any of the employees however big or small. 

Whoever is reading this post, I want you to know that if you are part of my life then I value you no matter how close we are or not. And if you are an outsider reading this post then please remember to thank, to please and to appreciate the people in your life because without them, you are just like a huge empty firm without it's employees. And that firm, does not last very long. 

So don't take anyone for granted. I would like to end this post by saying, "you don't realize the value of something, until it's gone". 

Judgement

Several people I have met, they say, females have it easy, they have no stress in life. They don't have to be a bread winner, neither do they take an kind of stress. They do not have to deal with the hardships of life and they do nothing but sit around all day looking pretty.

Well, that is a very chauvinist mindset. I would like to clear that misconception, girls do not have it easy. In fact, I would dare say that females for that matter have it more difficult than the males do.

From the minute they are born till the second they die, females are judged. Judged about how they look, what they wear, how they behave, how they eat, how they cook and so goes on, the list of infinite options of judgement. If a girl mingles with boys, she is a (pardon my language) a whore. If a girl only socializes with girls, she is conservative. If a girl goes out, she's a loafer but if a girl stays at home, she's very closed up. If a girl is healthy, she is called fat, if she's too thin, she's called a stick. If a girl eats too much she's a pig and if she eats too little she's anorexic. If a girl wears too many clothes, she's uptight but if a girl shows some skin and decides to look good, she's a slut. If a girl stays quiet when someone insults her, she's gullible but if she talks back, she is labelled rude by others.

Why, I ask, are girls judged so much? Society has put such an immense amount of pressure on this that girls are forced to be into something they are not. They are sometimes forced to take actions against their wishes. Males on the other hand, they have utter freedom. They are kings of the house and masters of their own will. Yes, they are the bread winners of the house but does that give them the right to scoff and tell their wives or mothers or sisters that, "hey, what do you people do the whole day sitting at home while we slog our asses off at work?"

Females in the olden times were meant to be house makers but men belittled the job of house making, they suppressed women. They assumed that they were superior just because they brought the money home from work. Obviously, all that suppression is bound to come out somehow! Too much pressure on something, and it bursts open eventually. Hence, women began to work, to dress up, to be bold. Just to show men that they can earn money as well. They are not meant to be reckoned with!

Despite all these revolutions, in some places, women continue to be disgraced. Men continue to be tyrants. Even in our modern society, ask yourselves, why is it that you allow your sons to do certain things but not your daughter? Why do you teach your daughter to wear proper clothes but not your son to behave himself? Even today, I am ashamed to see that girls are blamed for provoking the boys with their clothes and being raped while the guys are not given a death penalty for such ruthless actions. All I would like to say is this- why the façade of being called a modern society when our thoughts are still truly sexist and backwards?

The Hype for Valentines Day

Valentines Day is coming which obviously means one thing- big plans for all the people who are in a relationship. What I do not understand is this though: why is it such a big hype? I mean, I am a hopeless romantic myself but as a couple I know said, "Your love should not double just on Valentines Day, it should be the same forever." To which I replied, "Valentines Day is just not the one day where your love doubles, it is a day when you appreciate the love you already have."

Yes, I believe in love and Valentines Day but I do not wish to hype it up which is what is done nowadays. Couples are expected to do something special for each other and gift each other something. Why the unnecessary hype? I mean, it is really laudable if you want to do something for your opposite half as you love him or her but do it out of love, do not do it because you are expected to do something.

Also, why is it a common belief that Valentines Day is only celebrated by couples? I believe, it should be celebrated with and by everyone you love may it be friends, family whoever. Let everyone know and appreciate how much you love them. Trust me when I say true love can only be shown by actions and not by expensive baubles.

Have a happy Valentines Day to everyone :]

Parents

Everyone has relationships. Relationships with your boyfriends or girlfriends, relationships with your friends or relatives but the most intimate relationship which also demands the most attention in these ages is the one a child shares with his/her own parents.

This relationship is also very unpredictable. One second, you are laughing and kidding around with them and then next moment, it all ends up into a fight which was not foreseen. According to a lot of teenagers my age, their parents seem to have a lot of flaws. They lash out at any moment, make mountains out of mole hills, nag, scold, overprotect, ect... The list is endless. What they forget though, is that they themselves are not perfect too. I mean, come on! They are your parents! We don't understand the fact that when we end up hurt, emotionally or physically, they experience double the hurt. We are a part of them. They have the right to nag, scold and overprotect because they also love, care and pamper.

It's like we forget about all the things they did for us the moment we start to answer back to them. We shout, we taunt and we accuse them of multiple things. We remind them of their flaws. It's a vicious thing, this anger. It makes us an animal. We want nothing else but to win the argument against our parents at that moment even though we are wrong. I know the feeling completely, because at times, I turn into that animal.

I know it's hard to think of all this when we turn into that animal but we could at least try to tame it. And that is precisely what I am going to try the next time the animal tries to take over. I am never going to forget about all the sacrifices my parents made just so that I could have the best. It is said anything you do for your parents, it never meets up to what they did for you, not in a million years.