I know I don't blog regularly, I know I'm a lazy sloth and I also know that I don't have many readers who would be disappointed that I'm not a regular blogger because- I don't have any regular readers. I mostly blog for myself. And today, I'm blogging to rave about the theory of parentism.
I know I'm going to sound like a hypocrite, with one of my previous posts being about mutual understanding with one's parents, but hey, everyone, every kid to be exact has a certain breaking point. And I think I have reached mine today.
Parents (definition according to dictionary): father or mother (wow, bravo to the dictionary for clearing someone's doubts on what parents are).
Parents (my definition): people who have amazing abilities to twist their words into something that makes us believe we are wrong and if that does not work, the final statement always works a.k.a, "it's our house, so it's our decision".
The final statement always works 99.99% of the time, unless of course the kid is undeniably rebellious in which case the emotional blackmail is used to bring him/her down a.k.a, "we have worked so hard to bring you up, and this is what we get in return?" Usually it's, always something among those lines.
It does not matter how your parents were during their childhood, it does not matter if they made the same mistakes that we did and it definitely does not matter that their grades did not match up with ours. All parents somehow, learn the theory of parentism on their way to adulthood. I personally imagine the situation to be such:
Doctor: It's a boy! Congratulations!
Mother and father: *parenting mode activated*
Maybe it's just me, but sometimes I feel that parents just wait for their child to commit a mistake so that they can have the satisfaction of saying, "AHA! Told you so." I mean WHY? Is there like some secret system which calculates points and the parent who says, "I told you so" the most times gets some award?
Mothers and Fathers from everywhere, please stop comparing us kids with each other, it's not healthy. It's in fact, extremely hurtful. Every kid is different, we are not the same. Each and every one of us has different positive and negative aspects in our personality. Comparing us would just make us dislike each other. My mother just compared me to some friend's daughter and although I have not even met that girl, I already dislike her.
I know that we should all be grateful to our parents and listen to what they say and be good children and what not. But even parents are humans and humans have tendencies to make mistakes. They might also be wrong sometimes. But unlike us kids, there is no one to make our parents admit that they are wrong. Unless of course, our grandparents are in the picture. Then, the situation might go something like this:
Mom: I think you should be a doctor, not an architect.
Girl: but mom, I want to be an architect!
Mom: I don't think so.
Grandpa: You did not listen to me either about what you wanted to be, I think you should let the kid decide what she wants. Don't force your decisions on her.
Mom: *silence*
Girl: *smiling*
Yes, grandparents have the alpha final statement. You just can't argue with them because they know all the dirty little things your parents had indulged in while they were young.
Anyways, that was my rambling about the parentism theory. The theory, which you and even I, will be applying on our kids one day. Trust me, it always gets to you.
